There's a bajillion and one things to take care of for your wedding. And if you do not have a single organizing bone in your body, you might find yourself flustered, confused and stressed out in the process. Don't lose hope. This problem is one that many brides deal with. I have a few suggestions that might help:
- Set 1-3 Most Important Things for the day - the top 1, 2, or 3 things that you really want to get done that day. It might be a dress fitting, a cake tasting, your guest list, your invitations... whatever it is, set 1-3 main goals and make sure those get accomplished. A lot has been said about multitasking, but more often than not, attempting to do multiple things at once end up either with poor results or in overwhelm which leads to procrastination and accomplishing nothing at all at the end of the day. By setting 1-3 goals, you keep your focus solid on just a handful of things. 1-3 accomplished goals is better than none at all or several inferior ones.
- Get your Most Important Things done early in the day. Then everything else you do is extra. And if you feel like taking a break and playing, after you do the Most Important Things, you can do this without worrying that you’re not getting important stuff done. Mornings are when you're still full of energy and your mind is not yet clouded by the other thousand things on your to do list. Get these out of the way early for better chances of accomplishing them.
- You’ll never get to the bottom of your list. At least not in one day, a week or even a few months. You take it one day at a time, 1-3 Most Important Things at a time and sooner or later you'll reach the end of your list.
- It's not about doing everything on your list. It’s about knowing what needs to be done first. Focus on 1-3 goals at a time. Divide your main list into chunks made of 1-3 goals and schedule them on your planner. Remember, what gets scheduled gets done. They really do.
- It’s also good to schedule time blocks. Set a block for going through potential vendors, another for finalizing your guest list, another for visualizing the overall decor of the event and so on. Without a little bit of scheduling, you'll find that it can get a bit stressful, because you never know what needs to be done.
Try these methods out until you find a system that works for you and your schedule. Systems that have to adapt to us, not the other way around!